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You will probably find this to be an interesting way to start a post. Especially at a time when I am sharing and spreading the word about the Just Beneath the Surface re-release (a happy occasion). But I suppose I am, at times, peculiar, and so, I do peculiar things. And I want to share the following email from an online magazine, with you; here goes:

Jul 29 (3 days ago)

to me

Rhonda, Thank you for sending us “Don’t blink, don’t turn away” to **********. We regret to inform you it was not chosen for publication in an upcoming issue. Editorial decisions are often subjective, so we hope you’ll continue writing and submitting. Sincerely, Editor and Staff *********

Have you ever received a letter or email like this? Are you afraid of receiving a letter like this? Does the thought of receiving an email like this stop you from trying? Because for a long time, the idea of a rejection letter stopped me from submitting. The silence or dismissal from people I believed would support me stopped me from sharing. (And I don’t mean coddle me/make a huge deal of my aspirations — I’m easy to please; just a teeny bit of support). Am I the only one?

I still struggle with sharing what I call “book stuff” with my family and friends. I even created an author profile (along with my FB author page), so that I would never be tempted to bombard loved ones with incessant excerpts and links.

But back to the above email. It’s short and sweet. No harm, no foul. No matter how much I’m doubting myself or where I’m going as a writer, when I receive these emails (and I’ve seen my fair share!!!) I don’t fall apart. And you shouldn’t, either. Know why? It’s right there in the email. “Decisions are often subjective” …

Not only does this mean, they know what they’re looking for, and if what you have written doesn’t fit, it won’t be chosen, but it gives me the motivation to channel my energy. It gives me the motivation to create something I’ll tell myself will be even better for next time. It gives me the motivation to look at what I have written with a much more critical eye. I know I’ve said this, before about “rejection,” but it is nothing more than an opportunity to grow. Tear yourself away from the “R” word and redefine it. Focus on the passion inside you. Begin a new project or continue with your works in progress, keeping in mind, the fuel to evolve.

One door closes, another one opens. Keep your eyes open and wait for that opening —  not shut, obsessing over the doors that are closed. I’ll try to take my own advice. 🙂

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Onward and upwards! Moving forward …
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Ready for the final re-release related interview excerpts?? This one’s from Wednesday —  a  (very) fun chat with Vickie Johnstone of Vixies Stories:
“Which character from your books do you like most / are most like?
Good question. I don’t think I am like any of my characters. When it comes to creating characters, I like a blank canvas. The farther I can stray from myself or anyone I have ever met, the better.
Fave things: animal? food? drink? film? colour? band? song? place? item of clothing?
My favorite things – hmm, let’s see…
Animal: too many to count, especially if we talk about the baby animals!
Food: it really depends on my mood, but lately I love pistachios.
Drink: my favorite drink right now, I’m going to have to say 100% Natural Lipton Iced Tea.
Color: blue
Band: several, but right now I’m listening to Raised by Swans and Miguel.
Place: anywhere people are happy, content and peaceful.
Item of clothing: a black Jimi Hendrix shirt with the quote: “When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace.”
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This one’s from blogcritics.org (this interview is from last year, before the publisher put their final touches on this passage, before the designer created a new cover)
“Do you have a favorite line or excerpt that you would like to share from your book?

Before I could open the door Spencer grabbed both of my hands and pulled me close to him, “Clubs? Drinking? Lies?” he growled. He threw me back over to the passenger side of the car, raised his fist again, and began punching me repeatedly in my left ear. I instinctively covered my ear with both of my hands. I screamed over his shouting that I could not hear him over the ringing sound. I could only hear my heartbeat.

The longer I sat unable to make out what he was screaming at me, the more hysterical I became. But I managed to sit perfectly still as I crouched over. What if I was deaf? What if the ringing and swishing sounds never stopped?

I opened the door and fell onto our driveway. I felt so dazed, but I had to run. Wherever I ran would be better than going inside of the house. As I pulled myself up using the car door, I could hear his loafers scratching at the pavement as he edged closer.

What are some of your favorite ways to promote your work?

I really enjoy interviews; I like sharing my passion, and explaining more in depth about what I am trying to convey.

I have been very consistent, and quite prolific, but I am guilty of spending more time starting and finishing novels, than I have spent promoting my work — I am very new to promoting.

What is a typical writing day like for you?

I am actually a night owl. Generally, if I have planned a day devoted solely to a novel, I start typing around 9pm, and type through the night, and early morning. If I take a nap, it is a very short one — I like to use every moment I can, because time flies when I am working.

I will make sure I have plenty to drink, I will probably forget to eat, and normally, I do very little planning. If I am stumped, I sit down, and work chapter by chapter. Some days, I work on two books at once; I probably look very disorganized, but there’s a method to my madness.

What are some ways that you like to relax?

Writing is my number one way to relax, as long as I know everyone in my family is happy and taken care of.  I love coming up with new ideas, creating new characters and dialogue, or the feeling of finishing something I started.”

Check out the rest of this interview: blogcritics.org

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… And that concludes my week-long re-release celebration. I thank you for stopping by and thanks for reading! To show my gratitude, today only,

 Just Beneath the Surface is free on Smashwords.com with coupon code:  YX22N

Hello, all!
Thanks for joining me in day four of my week long re-release shenanigans! I will start by sharing an excerpt from a guest post with nextgenmilspouse, which I am very excited about :

Toward the end of 2004, one year after becoming a military spouse, I had begun to adjust to a new city: Abilene, Tx. I had my daughter at the end of 2005. I knew instantly, that I would be a stay at home mother, and I dedicated my life to my family. And although seeing every first step, hearing every first word, has been a blessing which I am forever grateful, I realized that I was missing something — I had forgotten about taking the time to daydream.

One afternoon, I sat down at our computer, turned on some music, and that year — 2005 — I completed my first novel. After writing my first novel, I realized that that for me, writing and storytelling are the essence of me. Despite my aversion to sharing what I had written to anyone outside of my immediate family, I knew deep down, that I was cultivating a piece of me, that deserved to be fostered.

Eight years and two children later, I have learned, that taking the time to do something that I enjoy, the sense of completion, writing something that could potentially touch someone’s life, became my driving force. I am learning to balance the military lifestyle, marriage, the demands of parenthood, my insecurities, writing, keeping up with my websites, and school.

Check out the rest of the article I had the pleasure of writing for the lovely folks over at nextgenmilspouse

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With finding balance and finding peace, comes knowing yourself and being comfortable with those things (even the silly things) that make you you.

Here are a few of those things:

1. I published and unpublished my novel, Where were you, (the prequel to Fountains) maybe 4 or 5 times, before taking it offline. If you ask me why, I could only shrug and say: “I really don’t know. It just made me nervous.”

2. Poor sense of direction. Actually none. I have no sense of direction.

3. Between the hours of 11 pm and 3 am, I am wide awake, and at my most creative.

4. When it comes to writing, I am a bit scandalous, unable to be faithful. For me, there’s no such thing as writing one book at a time.

As I’m writing, my wandering eye leads my heart elsewhere (to start or finish writing other books) and I am likely going back and forth to avoid writer’s block. I am going back and forth because this (somehow) really helps me delve into what I am doing.

5. Umm .. I “liked” my own facebook author page  ..

.. And that’s about all I can think of, for now. Oh, one more thing!

6. Tomorrow, Just Beneath the Surface will be free on Smashwords, for 1 day only.

So please, join me, tomorrow, the last day of my week long re-release celebration, and pick up your free copy of Just Beneath the Surface!

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Here is an excerpt from an interview I did with examiner.com. (The first thing you will notice, if you decide to take a look at the interview in its entirety, is the original Just Beneath the Surface book cover.)

“Have you ever gotten an inspirational book-related moment at work and had to go run and write and it down?

I am constantly having to run and write things down! I have ideas, plots, and character ideas popping into my mind at nearly every moment of every day. When I did work, I put the ideas in my phone or emailed them to myself so I would not forget them.” examiner.com interview

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So … since throughout this week, I will be sharing excerpts and interviews, I thought that today, I would share a few things you may not have known.

1. When I self-published last year, I remember someone telling me that if you are putting more funds into self-publishing, than what you are bringing in, you are making a huge mistake.

I took the advice to the extreme a bit. No, I definitely took it to the extreme. Past extreme. I thought that I would create my own book cover. Yes — my own book cover. If you read the above interview, you will see the book cover I made before I met designer, Laura of llpix.com.

2. My mind is suspended in the clouds with the characters in my novels when I’m writing and editing.

Once I am finished, I do not enjoy going back to read what I have written. That is why I do not share very many excerpts; I tell myself that I am going to, but once I start reading my novels, I start deleting and changing things. It neverrrr stops.

For that reason, I do not like going back to look at “old” projects. Not because I am not elated and excited to share, but because if I don’t step away, I will critique myself, change things, remove paragraphs, chapters, people, until the pages are completely blank.

 3. I finally have a home, an indie publisher, for my books. But I’m still terrified of sharing excerpts, much less submitting my stuff for reviews.

But each new day is a new opportunity to release that fear; I’ve gotten much better, and today, I have an excerpt to share:

Why did I have to let those hands touch me? Why was I staring at him and watching him touch me? Those mean punishing hands. Those violent raging fists. But not now — now they were so gentle. They massaged my hands so tenderly it practically tickled. He ran his fingers up and down the inside of my left arm and shook his head as tears streamed down his cheeks.

Why had I not pulled away? What kind of sick gluten for punishment was I? Rationale, which for me happened to be bloody memories, flooded my mind. Just as I managed to think a sound thought and attempted to take my arms away from his tender touch, he moved up to my collar bone, then my face. His fingertips began apologizing, grazing over my cheeks. He closed his eyes and stepped toward me until our bodies touched. He kept walking toward me until we were both against the wall. He then buried his face in my blouse as he began to weep.

“I’m so sorry,” said Spencer. “Do you understand me? I’m so, so sorry.”

Just Beneath the Surface

Hello, all!

I try not to go overboard with posts about myself or my books, but as I mentioned Saturday, Just Beneath the Surface is my first official re-release with my publisher! Throughout the week, I will be posting excerpts and sharing bits of information about my novel.

 Today, I will share my new website page, my author trailer, and a link to one of my first interviews.

 

excerpt from my interview with reviews from here:

“Did something specific happen to prompt you to write this book?

Well. There was a moment where I realized my heart was heavy not only for victims of abuse or domestic violence, but my heart was heavy for those who were being judged in their situation. When I say judged, I am talking about the myths.

People who think that the victims of domestic violence are to blame for their own situations. People who think the victims of domestic violence deserve to be hurt, or like to be hurt – or else why stay?

These are just a couple of many things that stirred something inside of me.This prompted me to create a main character who was strong, confident, and very relatable. Something that I say often, and truly believe, is that with being relatable comes empathy. With empathy comes less judgment.” read entire interview

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an interview with the authors show:


Kendall Berkley never understood why
women would stay in abusive relationships
or allow themselves to be battered and
humiliated. It would never happen to her.

She had it all: two beautiful, intelligent
children and a successful career. She
knew she would never let a man abuse
her, and if he did she would walk away.

She knew all this until the day she mar-
ried Spencer. He treated her like a
queen…until he’d had a bad day, or the
house wasn’t spotless, or she looked at
him wrong. No matter how much blood
was shed, or how many bruises had to be
hidden, or how many lies she had to tell,
she stayed for the sake of her marriage.

Sometimes a woman has to choose
between broken vows and broken bones.

 

Inknbeans website page: http://www.inknbeans.com/rh-ramsey.html

Domestic violence is one of the main issues in the book and Rhonda uses her writing skills perfectly to convey the blows, throws and punches. – unicorn reviews

The day I have been excited about for quite some time, now, Monday, is the re-release date for Just Beneath the Surface – my first release as an Inknbeans author!

Take a look at what others have been saying!

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Just Beneath the Surface Reviews:

I have never been in an abusive relationship. I have watched a LOT of true crime shows and read a LOT of true crime books that involve abuse and a woman staying in a relationship that clearly is going to escalate to hospitalization or even death. I can imagine those women having the same thought processes and rationales as Kendall. There’s a feeling after reading this book of having been behind the scenes to see something rare and the need to share that new knowledge with women or men who may find themselves in a similar situation.Kendall is unhappy with her relationship and looks to move on. She’s been with the father of her two children a long time and while marriage is important to her, he doesn’t see the point. He’s written as a bit of a self-absorbed jerk at the start of the novel. “My life is important and what you do doesn’t matter.” When they break off and Kendall starts a new relationship there are signs. Signs that she chooses to ignore. Ramsey does a good job showing us where Kendall’s life falls apart and the reasons she chooses to stay.While she’s moving on, Diamond is falling apart. She’s promised her friend that they’ll wait to have sex until they’re married and then, in the midst of her parents divorce, breaks that vow with the a man who was engaged to a friend’s mother. Her reputation at school is trashed, she’s called horrible names and boys are saying that they slept with her that haven’t (of course, she’s called a whore and they’re patted on the back). She gets involved with an older authority figure that warns her up front that he’s intense in relationships. Like all girls, she finds this appealing at first but the reality can be scary.What most impressed me about this book was how carefully Ramsey plotted the abuser. He’s about control….
T. Dewirst
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Just Beneath the surface is a study in abuse. You automatically know this will be a story about domestic abuse; you just have to wonder how it will be told. R.H. Ramsey does a terrific job in her telling. Like the peeling of an onion, just as one layer of abuse is revealed another is seen just beneath the surface. As I read the story I began to see the problem started in subtle ways. What seemed like a loving, fun filled family was really a group of people always ticking at each other. Name calling and teasing between brother and sister, snide, belittling remarks between the parents, and a woman who doesn’t have respect for the man she is with is a disaster waiting to happen.
Kendall harbors resentment and lack of respect for the easy going man she has been with from high school. Michael feeds her resentment by having excuses for not marrying her after 14 years of living together. The children dislike each other, jealous because of the obvious favoritism for one by the opposite parent. Just as I thought everything was about to blow up, the story took a totally different turn and the parents separated, revealing a level of an entirely different form of abuse.In this deeper level, Ramsey decided to tell the story through the alternating voice of the women. Kendall finds and marries a new man and will do anything and accepts every thing in order to keep this man. Even to the point of ignoring her children and the ability to save her daughter from following in her footsteps.This is definitely a book to read. Just when you expect one thing to happen, another layer is revealed and you are pulled deeper and further beneath the surface.
Ey Wade 

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I love how the title really sets the theme of this book. You have to look at what is not being said to truly get into the mindset of the main characters. I feel as though this books allows you to get a deeper look inside the feelings and actions of the abuser, the abused, and those left in the wreckage of abuse. I found the authors depiction of the internal and external conflict shockingly real. It was really interesting to see the story take such a surprising direction at the end.
– Sherry
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Do you have a book trailer? Share the link! Are you considering making one? Here are some of my favorites, as well as some awesome, straight to the point ideas for your own trailer …

and in case you missed it, here is my “author trailer” which is a bit longer and slightly different from a book trailer – Don’t forget to share yours ; – )

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(find great diy info on creating your own trailer from the following author!) – anticipation