5 things to think about, when pursuing your writing dream


In 2005, I completed my first novel, and for the next 7 years, said that I’d never share my work.

In 2012, I decided that awareness was more important than being shy; I self-published.

In 2012 and 2013, I submitted my books (and articles/essays) to countless publishers, magazines, and websites.

Through an author friend, I discovered what would become my publisher, Inknbeans Press. A warm group, whose mission is to publish works written about topics that may not be trendy, but accepts authors who write straight from the heart and strive to evolve and grow.

In 2012 and 2013, I learned that when it came to being self-published/published, there was much more than love of writing. I would need thick skin, to depend less on others, lose expectations that my work would be magically shared just because I’d poured everything I had into it. I started writing guest posts and reaching out to reviewers. I promised myself, that no matter what, (cluster headaches and all) I would figure out ways to do more in person.

As much as I hated the idea of stepping out beyond sharing my books – I would have to … talk in front of people and … *shudders*

Wait, where was I?

In 2014, I decided that I would put myself out there. Try to get my work into bookstores. Contact as many people as possible, to spread the word, to knock on every door that appeared, either in my imagination or through networking.

And what I feel is the biggest lesson — no, biggest shocker of all — is that I can appreciate, and dare I say I prefer, doing things in person.

Guest posts, reviews, Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, Twitter, online writing groups, (there are soo many options for networking and promoting online) are very important. But book signings, (even if hardly anyone shows or makes a purchase) are vital. And if you are as shy as I am, the more you do them, the better you feel once you’re in the moment. Whether you’re one to rehearse what you’ll say, or you find that you do better to ‘wing it,’ it gets better the more you do it. And here are a few more things that I’ve learned thus far.

1. Don’t expect people to do all of that hard promoting/marketing work for you. Word of mouth through friends and family is great. But they’ve got lives, careers, school, families — I repeat LIVES – of their own.

Leave your expectations with your rough draft. Trust me. You’ll get your feelings hurt, and you won’t get far. AT ALL.

2. If you do have a group of people who are dedicated to supporting your dream, and are sharing and spreading the word, thank them every single day.

Not everyone has that. You have to appreciate it, because people will become burned out if they feel taken for granted. Wouldn’t you?

3. I know what it’s like to be shy. Well, I don’t know that I’m that shy. Just an introvert, not great with small talk, not big on talking about me (in person).

Don’t be afraid to write down facts about your books that would be catchy, if ever you are stuck in line at the store, having small talk at work, chatting with a neighbor, etc. Then, if you are more of a “wing it” type of person, you’ve got something to build upon or take away from.

Hey!! Wait … don’t forget to ask a friend or loved one if you’ve written a huge ramble – sometimes we want to talk about the book in ways that confuse people. Or downright scares them.

Also, never be afraid to say that you are an author. This is something that I still can’t say. Let’s work on it together.

4. Contact everyone. Newspapers, bookstores (start with smaller stores, they’re so friendly you wouldn’t believe!!), libraries, local author events, radio stations, even local news stations!

You never know who is looking for someone interesting for their next article or news segment. I was shocked when a producer of a local show told me there was space available for an interview – with me.

Please, don’t let shyness ruin your chances to share. I nearly did. (Actually, I did for years and years.)

5. Just believe in yourself. And be grateful for every big and small thing that happens. Imagine the looks on your kids, grandkids, neighborhood kids, nieces and nephews’ faces, when you pull out your book, and tell them that you are an author.

Just like that, you’ve inspired a new generation.

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  1. This is a wonderful post and so beautifully written. I appreciated every single word you said! Like you, I also find it difficult to put myself out there. But you’re absolutely right, that is the only way we can get our voices heard.

    You’ve done great so far. I admire all the work you’ve done and are still doing… You’re an inspiration!

    • You are so kind. I sincerely appreciate you commenting.

      I repeat: I can’t wait until your re-release. All the best, Leila!!!

  2. You need a like button on your blog Isola. I keep looking for one after I read one of your posts I particularly enjoyed like this one. I’m not someone who most people consider shy but I am an introvert. I can relate to what you’re saying here because I put off writing a book for many years though I knew I had one (or three) in me. The task of getting a publisher seemed too daunting. Now I know the daunting thing is writing the book itself and self publishing eliminates any other concerns. For every time there is a season or so the saying goes.

    • Isn’t being an introvert bittersweet? Like, the observation and conversations and ability to completely detach and look in on things in a way many people cannot – LOVE

      … But, the way we get in our own heads and are imprisoned by that negative self-talk – AWFUL!!!!!

      What are the links to your books, Lily, I was looking on Amazon, under Lily Java, but couldn’t find anything.

      • Bittersweet and confusing. I recently heard a term I’m afraid applies to me. Ambivert: Introvert with extrovert tendencies. In other words I look social but I really can’t bear to be in anyone’s company but my own. 😉

        Sorry to put you through the work of looking for my books but I’m very glad you didn’t find anything since I’m not published yet. Just finished a novel that’s in the editing phase. Will published it and a novella prequel in the fall. Exciting times.

      • Wow. I think I know quite a few of those!!! Love it. Ambivert, huh?

        Good grief. If only I’d just asked. Sigh.

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